March 18, 2013

It’s Over


She’d been unfair, untrustworthy, and stolen from me. I couldn’t even look her in the eye. At least, not without lava bubbling up inside my heart. And that’s a dangerous place for Christ-followers.

The fine line between human anger and righteous anger. Condemnation of another and sharing godly conviction with them.

Maybe there is someone in your life who has sinned against you. Acted cruel. Treated you with contempt.

Maybe that someone is … you.

Maybe you can’t look yourself in the eye for the things you’ve done against yourself … against others. You may be so angry or disappointed with yourself for choices you’ve made. Perhaps a churning and burning lava flare within your heart.

That’s a dangerous place for Christ-followers. Instead of believing the nagging voice of condemnation telling you that you don’t deserve a second chance, you shall always live with shame or regret, that you are evil and wicked and no good …

Instead, tap into the truth the Holy Spirit is speaking; His conviction that leads to life. He offers “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness” (Gal. 5:22} But only if we allow Him to.

Start today by disputing the condemnation with conviction. Acknowledge your sin, then acknowledge Jesus. His death on the cross means new life for us. Ask Him for forgiveness and  ask Him for strength to stop that pattern of sin if you haven’t already.

Next, ask for love, joy, peace, patience, goodness and faithfulness. Pray to be filled with all the Holy Spirit offers. His cooling water will squelch the hot lava bubbling up. It may take time… but it will happen.


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  1. Thank you for your words of encouragement this morning! I am so blessed by the Proverbs 31 devotions and I’m glad I found your blog.

  2. Thank you for the devotion today. It truly touched my heart.

  3. Thank you for the words of encouragement. I have been struggling with my worth. I know it’s satan and I try and fight it. Reading Gods word is the only way to end this and encouraging words He sends us through people like you to strengthen His truth. Thank You for helping others like me. Love in Christ, betty

  4. Just what I needed today – thank you for being used by God to give encouragement to me at this point in my life.

  5. I have been in the blame myself game this pst eek, and appreciate your words of encouragement today. thank you for being real.

  6. Thank you for touching my hurting heart today

  7. Martha T. says:

    Your devotional is quite good today and also in the Proverbs 31 email . I would love to win the devotional Bible!

  8. Karen Simpson says:

    Samantha, I loved the prayer – “I’m forever grateful” Amen – Me too! Forever grateful for what Jesus did for ME on the cross. That I may be forgiven, that God choses to forget my sin, to love me unconditionaly, no matter what happened before. All things are made new, In Jesus precious name!

  9. Thank you so much for your positive message and a chance to win a great book! 🙂

  10. Thank you so much for the article. It seems like I have been dealing with being unworthy all my life. I only came to Christ 2 years ago and it is still hard to believe that all my sins have been forgiven by him and that His death gave me a New Life. I really needed to hear this today. Thank you!

  11. I’m brand new to your site. Loved your message and the devotional Real Life Devo.Bible for Women, looks like an awesome book. I too struggle with “those” self defeating, nagging thoughts from time to time, that only ends up making ya feel quilt, condemnatoin & a loss of peace & energy. I’m looking forward to receiving “grace” in my inbox from your blog!! lvnprys, jls

  12. Thank you for the encouragement so needed, God bless you.

  13. Such a beautiful message! It is a much needed truth.

  14. I am new to your site as well. Love it………you and your honesty. Needed to hear that today! Know that God used you.I would love to win the Bible………..Lord you alone know who needs it today.
    Bless us all O Lord, I pray!

  15. Suzanne Anderson says:

    Maybe it’s your writing, maybe it’s a reflection in my life – symbolically, or maybe both, but whatever it was, I cried for that young woman in ‘debris of dark gray’ and could not stop crying. You captured my heart in her despair. And I’m curious to know how she is right now. I wonder as I believe what wonderful things God has done for her after your two worlds collided on that ‘gorgeous in-every-way L.A. day.’ Thanks for being an Inspiration and for your Encouragement as you helped to find her way!!

  16. Thank you for your words of encouragement. I especially loved when you said, “But letting the Light of truth in to our hearts turns our winter of doubt into a spring of hope.”

  17. Hilda Quintanilla says:

    I am my very own worst critic, my own condemner.

  18. Thank you for your encouraging words today! I have to keep reminding myself like you said, we have to ALLOW the Holy Spirit to work in us to fill us with the fruits of the spirit and sometimes its very hard to do. I’m definitely working on that, so thank you! 🙂

  19. Thanks for allowing God to speak through you to me.

  20. Lynn Cox says:

    Thank you for the words of encouragement!

  21. Kerry Ann says:

    Thank you for this devotional today – it touched my heart!

  22. Dierdre H says:

    How wonderful. Proverbs 31 gives me a “lift” everyday. The devotionals are great and so heart warming. Thank you so much for sharing and showing it is all about God’s grace no matter what we have done and what others have done to us. I love how God uses people to tell HIS truths.

  23. Penny Pagani says:

    I’ve just found your blog, and I think it’s great. You have a new follower!

  24. Thank you for your words of encouragement. It was just what I needed to hear today.

  25. Thanks, your devotional is just what I needed today.I’ve been struggling with ‘feeling like I have messed up to many times’. Your message touched my heart and gives me some hope. I would loveto be able to read this Devotional Bible.

  26. Linda Sales says:

    I need a new bible and would love to have this one your giving away. I have come back to God after my life was in ruins. I do not have a job I have no money so I really hope I can get this new womans bible. I would cherish it forever. Thank you for listening to my wish. God Bless everyone. Amen.

  27. Stephanie says:

    Thank you for your devotion today!!!

  28. Lauren H says:

    Thank you SO much for your words of encouragement and for speaking the truth. I have been so incredibly blessed by this blog and by Proverbs 31! Thank you from the bottom of my changed heart! The bible looks amazing!!!

  29. God’s timing is perfect, and I read this devotional at just the perfect time. Thank you for allowing Christ to speak through you and into the words you wrote.

  30. Samantha, I loved your devo today! Your words about what we’ve done not dictating who we are really hit! God has me on a journey of seeking His answer to my “Who am I?” question and this ties right in to what He is saying! So grateful for you and all the P31 gals – He speaks thru you loud and clear!! Blessings to you!!

  31. Wonderful words that were much needed today.

  32. Wow! This really spoke to me today. I was beating myself up earlier over some mistakes that I made years ago that are affecting my ability to find work. Thank you so much for the reminder that I’ve been forgiven and those mistakes do not define me!

  33. Thank you doesnt seem enough for your words of encouragement. I have been in a battle with severe depression and anxiety and thank God for speaking to me through your website.

  34. Cara Snyder says:

    I would love to win the Bible. Proverbs 31 and the people who write for it are awesome! It’s amazing how the things I read so often are the things I need to hear at that time! Praise God!

  35. Thankyou for these words! Anger when you have been hurt is hard to swallow sometimes. Exactly like hot lava. I love how you said He can squelch it!

  36. Lisa Cullen says:

    Thank you so much for this devotion

  37. Polly Schneider says:

    Thanks for your devotion. I have been so blessed by everyone at Proverbs 31. I am so glad I found this website and I would love to win a copy of the devotional Bible.

  38. Forgiveness is just not humanly possible without God’s grace. GRACE. Says it all.

  39. Thank you for sharing these thoughts. I am so grateful that you have taken time out your busy life to share with the rest of us your gift from God. You have such a gift of beautiful words. Words that speak into the hearts of many. I have been blessed so often by your words conveying encouragement. God bless you and your new hubby!

  40. Jennifer says:

    Thank you for your words of encouragement. I have been a Christian since I was 12, but turned away from the Lord so many times. This past November I fully devoted my life back to the Lord and have been struggling with forgiving myself during my times of rebellion. Your words spoke to my heart and I realize that even at 40 it’s not too late to start being the woman God created me to be so that I may be an example to my children and others. Thanks again for the reminder of forgiveness, even toward one’s self.

  41. Sue Gronholz says:

    I love reading your blogs! Thanks for the encouraging words!

    gronholzfam at powerweb dot net

  42. Heather Gronholz says:

    Thanks for the encouraging words! 🙂

    hgronholz at gmail dot com

  43. june valiquet says:

    Thank you for your message. I am dealing with anger. It is so hard to let go. It seems to be something I deal with often.

  44. Since being baptized at the age of 15, I have lost and found my way back to Christ more times than I can count. I am now in my mid-40’s still find myself struggling to forgive myself or to feel forgiven for the sins I’ve committed during those times when I was truly lost. I needed your words of encouragement today. I acknowledge my sins to myself and to Christ, and I cling to the new life I have found in Christ. Through Christ, I find hope, love and strength. I hope one day to find peace.

  45. Yes, I am struggling with a man I thought I knew and loved and was to marry. I was only in love with who he allowed me to see.He was such a good pretender.Thank You for taking his mask off that none of us could see. Now, I pray for help in healing so I don’t wear a msk to hide(especially from ALL men forever and ever).

  46. This hit the spot husband and I are struggling and today I felt like shutting down..we just cant seem to have peace with one another…I feel like I’m doing this on my own, and I resent him..this reminded me to seek God and let Him be my focus, not my will be nice to get to the other side of this trial and see what. God taught us

  47. Catherine says:

    Wow – talk about timely! I keep running into (without seeking them out) messages about forgiving oneself. I’ve wrestled with this issue seemingly forever. I’m am tortured by my failures and by memories of people I know (or think) I’ve disappointed or hurt – sometimes it’s overwhelming. When I am thinking rightly, I remember that all of my sins are nailed to the cross and Christ’s forgiveness is mine. When I’m not thinking rightly, I replay my offenses against others, real or imagined, and find only misery. I have struggled mightily with forgiveness, I must confess. Thank you for the reminder!

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